It was just yesterday that I and a friend held a brief chat. It took me off course; ‘caught me’ ‘unaware’ but kept me spinning faster, mentally.
So you think surely you know your; spouse, friend, relative, colleague or loved one, well enough?
‘Knowing one deeper’ is what we were focusing on. She says; at most times ‘knowing or getting to know someone better, more, well enough is painful, disappointing or can be frustrating’ Is it?
It is facing reality, the truth…, we agreed it’s good though it sometimes saves or messes it all!
Everyone has what I referred to as ‘The other side’ and this is kept known to only ‘themselves,’ away from the world. At most times, it can be queer, weird… One is so selfish about their ‘other side’; like a coin, it is just flipped so as to check the other side.
It requires real patience, time and closeness to unveil one- which are rare in today’s immortals.
Many, like ‘her’ prefer living away from the the disappointment; what if it could save one from an eternal burden of shame, trouble or worry?
The world- me inclusive, still faces this challenge of ‘people understanding themselves and each other’; right from our families to our schools, work places, social centers and elsewhere which explains the endless conflicts resulting from the ‘unexpected disappointments’!
True it is, getting to know the ‘realness’ of one may be a burden at first, a frustration as it happens, painful at times or who knows; a blessing- a lesson to be treasured for ages after.
You have always heard of it, maybe before or yet ‘I’d like to know you better.’