Month: December 2018

Women hold Wrath,and here is why(2)

A girl raised in family where her mother is physically abused by the the father. The beatings, screens and wails eachday.

Most girls, like sheep have been sold off-more by their parents-into unplanned marriages, since the men who desired them had money,  “Listen to me my daughter. Iam your parent,  and I know what’s best for you, “they stated.

To this day girls are waking up in realisation that they’ve for long lived under oppression and abuse. 

A girl since childhood is molested by her uncle, brother, her real father. She doesn’t enjoy it,  but again fears how society will turn against her if she uttered out a word about an abuse from with in. Again, what does she know?, she will assume.   ‘How dare you insult your father? ‘, they’d state.

Most ladies,  especially in marriage relationships, the pleasure of romance,  intimacy and sexual satisfaction is a fantacy(they only dream of,  or watch in TV Soaps), since to men, they are rather serving a role of quenching their sexual urge. 

A lady won’t get an office job or promotion,  since the proposed terms are ‘A night with the Employer’ -but again, some do.

A lady lost her job since she couldn’t give in to the desires of her male manager. 

Strange a girl would find it how at some cases,  she is told to report for an interview (not in public,  not during day,  yet not in the company of others),  but at a weired venue-a hotel or lodge. 

A lady was raped by her boss. In fear of losing the job,  she swallowed the pain,  gave birth- and carried on. She was fired from her job,  and couldn’t stand against the defiler. 

Another was decieved into sleeping with her employer-to-be. She got the job. Things went on as planned,  but not for longer- as the same criteria was used for another lady. Yes,  a broken heart she turned out to be. 

Imagine the many single mothers, doing all sorts of jobs as they raise their kids- whose fathers denied responsibility.

After her secondary level, she had to surely search for a job. A bar tender she was employed to be. But she learnt how her shift was twisted to night time. One day she was escorted back by a fine handsome lad-who seemed a good Samaritan. On her way,  her last memory before it all was taking a sip of a soft drink. 

Bedridden for 2 months,  investigations indicated how she had been raped by 6 men. She survived, but with a pregnancy and HIV/Aids. No one was brought to justice like the courts sayings state ‘there wasn’t enough evidence’. 

It turns out a suddening aspect how there are women, who haven’t stood up for girls or their fellows,  but rather set traps for them(that too is for another day post).

This all, and more, like a Cancer has eaten them up, drained their souls, that no more they still exist as gentle being’s, but betrayed personalities,thirsty for revenge.

From deeper experience, women today hold great wrath, which like never before might affect generations.

But for any success,  especially in restoring the plight of a girl-child and a woman,  it starts right from a family, the upbringing, and society systems, it’s a joint role.


Women hold a Wrath- here is why- 1

I remember writing this all,  and more,  but just realize how it has been all in my head.  I do know the consequences of  words, but again-it just has to be somebody.

Over time,  as the world evolves,  women have and are still standing out when it comes to advocacy. From Human Rights Activists, Feminists Movement and Governments rising,  it’s all evident.


It all roots from how she had been. A woman was entirely a ‘Submissive beings,  one to take orders,  without a word,  a helper, Baby Maker,  a cook,  Baby sitter and all.

Even as civilization kicked in, educating a girl seemed a waste of time. In Africa, a girl was rather raised, and prepared for marriage (which still goes on even amidst elites).

Even in leadership, till today,  the world barely possess 5 female presidents. Women/or girls have been raised into belief that they are weak. Okay,  they might be physically,  but it’s mentality that rules the world (otherwise being a body builder would be a quality for presidential candidates).

With enlightenment, a few women have overtime risen in advocacy of a girl child,  and women, with strong belief that ‘Women rights  are Human Rights’.

It all makes sense, a women is a strong,  if not a major pillar amidst the family,  since they know, and understand better.


Unlike the past 10 years,  in Africa today men seem to have taken a back seat,  wondering, contemplating of why women have turned out different.

With with legalization of divorce, women find it free to live on,  while crimes like rape too are Strictly punishable by law.

The Rage

The rising of Feminism, Feminists and women activists is one which has taken several turns. Even when a few women admit, the rage is felt through their steps. With hash tags like #MenAreDogs #MenAreTrash,  one may wonder.  But behind it all, is a lot.

Getting to know ourselves isn’t an aspect we have treasured more. Why?, because we at most see, wave,  smile, hug,  kiss, cuddle and reproduce without understanding who we ‘really are’