Unlike today, where they are lavishly adorning bars, supermarkets and even accessible through mobile technology, televisions were limited to top elites, that even watching them was glorious…
A girl raised in family where her mother is physically abused by the the father. The beatings, screens and wails eachday.
Most girls, like sheep have been sold off-more by their parents-into unplanned marriages, since the men who desired them had money, “Listen to me my daughter. Iam your parent, and I know what’s best for you, “they stated.
To this day girls are waking up in realisation that they’ve for long lived under oppression and abuse.
A girl since childhood is molested by her uncle, brother, her real father. She doesn’t enjoy it, but again fears how society will turn against her if she uttered out a word about an abuse from with in. Again, what does she know?, she will assume. ‘How dare you insult your father? ‘, they’d state.
Most ladies, especially in marriage relationships, the pleasure of romance, intimacy and sexual satisfaction is a fantacy(they only dream of, or watch in TV Soaps), since to men, they are rather serving a role of quenching their sexual urge.
A lady won’t get an office job or promotion, since the proposed terms are ‘A night with the Employer’ -but again, some do.
A lady lost her job since she couldn’t give in to the desires of her male manager.
Strange a girl would find it how at some cases, she is told to report for an interview (not in public, not during day, yet not in the company of others), but at a weired venue-a hotel or lodge.
A lady was raped by her boss. In fear of losing the job, she swallowed the pain, gave birth- and carried on. She was fired from her job, and couldn’t stand against the defiler.
Another was decieved into sleeping with her employer-to-be. She got the job. Things went on as planned, but not for longer- as the same criteria was used for another lady. Yes, a broken heart she turned out to be.
Imagine the many single mothers, doing all sorts of jobs as they raise their kids- whose fathers denied responsibility.
After her secondary level, she had to surely search for a job. A bar tender she was employed to be. But she learnt how her shift was twisted to night time. One day she was escorted back by a fine handsome lad-who seemed a good Samaritan. On her way, her last memory before it all was taking a sip of a soft drink.
Bedridden for 2 months, investigations indicated how she had been raped by 6 men. She survived, but with a pregnancy and HIV/Aids. No one was brought to justice like the courts sayings state ‘there wasn’t enough evidence’.
It turns out a suddening aspect how there are women, who haven’t stood up for girls or their fellows, but rather set traps for them(that too is for another day post).
This all, and more, like a Cancer has eaten them up, drained their souls, that no more they still exist as gentle being’s, but betrayed personalities,thirsty for revenge.
From deeper experience, women today hold great wrath, which like never before might affect generations.
But for any success, especially in restoring the plight of a girl-child and a woman, it starts right from a family, the upbringing, and society systems, it’s a joint role.
I remember writing this all, and more, but just realize how it has been all in my head. I do know the consequences of words, but again-it just has to be somebody.
Over time, as the world evolves, women have and are still standing out when it comes to advocacy. From Human Rights Activists, Feminists Movement and Governments rising, it’s all evident.
It all roots from how she had been. A woman was entirely a ‘Submissive beings, one to take orders, without a word, a helper, Baby Maker, a cook, Baby sitter and all.
Even as civilization kicked in, educating a girl seemed a waste of time. In Africa, a girl was rather raised, and prepared for marriage (which still goes on even amidst elites).
Even in leadership, till today, the world barely possess 5 female presidents. Women/or girls have been raised into belief that they are weak. Okay, they might be physically, but it’s mentality that rules the world (otherwise being a body builder would be a quality for presidential candidates).
With enlightenment, a few women have overtime risen in advocacy of a girl child, and women, with strong belief that ‘Women rights are Human Rights’.
It all makes sense, a women is a strong, if not a major pillar amidst the family, since they know, and understand better.
Unlike the past 10 years, in Africa today men seem to have taken a back seat, wondering, contemplating of why women have turned out different.
With with legalization of divorce, women find it free to live on, while crimes like rape too are Strictly punishable by law.
The rising of Feminism, Feminists and women activists is one which has taken several turns. Even when a few women admit, the rage is felt through their steps. With hash tags like #MenAreDogs #MenAreTrash, one may wonder. But behind it all, is a lot.
Getting to know ourselves isn’t an aspect we have treasured more. Why?, because we at most see, wave, smile, hug, kiss, cuddle and reproduce without understanding who we ‘really are’
Dear musicians, and Artist managers, gone are the days when Africans were considered backwards, or in darkness. As you audience, we are more out there online, listening to far better music, advance media broadcasts that we wont be deceived into buying that…
The star’s recent relationship, right from his family, to people surrounding him isn’t one he takes pride in- and neither do closer circles affirm his ‘doing well’…
Yes, one can’t deny the fact that February opennied up with great misery, which lasted- the death of Uganda’s Moses Ssekibogo Nakintige, commonly known as Mowzey Radio, who was ome of the leading musicians in Uganda, East Africa and onto the African scene.
First was the unconnected incidents-right from the ‘claimed’ bar fights, the hospital treatment narration, burial to the aftermath- which to this day leave so many hanging statements.
Furthermore is money-splashing aclaimed tycoon Brian Kirumira aka Brian White, who posesses several musicians as his followers. Among these, was Dj. Michael, Weasel(of Good Lyf, Jose Cameleone, Bebe Cool and Stand Up comedians like Alex Muhangi, Madrat&Chicco and others.
Under ‘Brian White Foundation’, his NGO, which is said to be uplifting many youth, he preaches development against poverty.
But all didnt go that well after public and later Good Lyf management came out clarifying how it was not pleased with the way this tycoon was disrespectfully handling Weasel, a brand-hence opting out of this movement.
Spicy Diana too has had her woos. The rising Ugandan female musician had successfully premiered her video, the last one with Radio&Weasel, which was well recieved, but then came the Tv interviews (one- which revealed her A’level success in Exams, then another where she was embarassed by her wig falling off the her head while she did a dance stunt, Ooh Nooo!
In Rwanda, the Miss Rwanda Contest unveiled lots-among them was the Milking session of the girls, who were cladded in ‘unique’ Puma sportswear.
Then was Bishop Rugagi’s prophesy of her sheep winning the peagant, which didnt occur! To settle axiety, the crown was finally won by 18 year old Lilian Iradukunda.
Rwanda’s standing girl duo Charly&Nina parted ways with Decent Management, a music management label founded by Alex Muyoboke. This was done-not in broad day light, since the official statement seemed unofficial (As it only had the Duo’s signature). Do they have an official active IG Account too?
Tanzanian Rapper AY is still in the Merry-making mood, which has lasted months after meeting and engaging with Rwandan babe. The two finally sealed this commitment too.We hope the tempo of his music wont change!
Lets save the rest for March!